All Scripture is God-breathed and is useful for teaching, rebuking, correcting and training in righteousness,
2 Tim 3.16
The cartoons come from a recent Care for the Family article on the subject of boundaries. It was in the context of parenting and very helpful, and it got me thinking about boundaries in our relationship.
Every now and then, especially when tired I loose it. This happened yesterday and I gave my wife a miserable time. She was very upset, hurt and angry and withdrew. What an idiot I can be! Later she came back and gently and firmly told me that my behaviour was out of order. She was absolutely right and I apologised. We’ve changed… years ago she wouldn’t have said anything and I would have been none the wiser. I wouldn’t have apologised, we wouldn’t have made up and I wouldn’t have recognised the need to change either.
It’s taken a while for us to get to this point. Both of us are learning to put in place some boundaries and remove others. Often it’s to do with our behaviour, other times with parenting, money management or working habits. We’ve found the Bible and wise Christian friends very helpful in this.
How about you?
Are there boundaries you need to put in place or take down?
Prayer (as a couple)
Dear Lord, Your word and the Holy Spirit help us to live healthy lives together. Help …. and me to put in place healthy boundaries, particularly in the area of ….. and help us to remove any boundaries that are unhelpful. Help us to live lives that reflect and glorify you, for we ask in Jesus’s name. Amen
You may wish to discuss what you could do and what help you could get from friends to make any changes that would be good for you.
Prayer (for others)
Dear Lord we pray for ….. and …. and for other couples in our community. Help them to put healthy boundaries in place and to glorify and reflect you. If there are unhealthy habits or practices in place the Lord please reveal these to them and convict them to change. Amen
You reap what you sow.