Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
We often think about the need for forgiveness when there’s been a significant conflict and of course it’s vital to forgive in those circumstances so we can reconnect and restore closeness.
However, I’ve found that it’s also important to forgive for all those little things that can so easily irritate, like clothes strewn on the floor, leaving the loo seat up, not clearing up the coffee granules from the kitchen surface…If I don’t consciously decide to forgive these things I find that those little things can, over time, end up causing a disproportionately large row!
I’ve found it much better to acknowledge my irritation and then ask God to help me forgive my husband. Sometimes I might also say something to my husband, kindly, of course. It also helps me to remember that I’m not perfect either. Jesus has to forgive me daily and I’m so grateful for that!
Reflect together: what are some of the little things you each need to forgive one another for? What does forgiveness look like in your relationship?
Today is the last of a series of five prayers leading up to Marriage Week. You may like to look at all the short Bible reflections for couples which accompany the prayers which are available as free downloads.
Prayer (as a couple)
Father God, we are so grateful that you understand that we can irritate and hurt each other, even if we don’t mean to. Thank you that you have given us the means to reconnect and restore closeness by forgiving one another. Help us to have a marriage that is a union of two good forgivers. In Jesus name we pray. Amen.
Prayer (for others)
Father God, we pray for … and … Please help them to forgive one another for the big things as well as the little things that come between them. In Jesus name we pray. Amen.
“A good marriage is the union of two good forgivers.” Ruth Graham Bell